I think there’s this notion in the term “evidence-based” that some things work for everyone and some things don’t work for anyone. That’s just not true. Sometimes you have to try a lot of different approaches to figure out what works for YOU, and you should feel free to try anything that doesn’t harm you and you think might work.

EMDR definitely works for some people. SSRI antidepressants work for some people. That doesn’t make them better for YOU. And when you do find something that works for you, don’t treat it as the best and only solution. It might not work for others as well.

Don’t be a drug or therapy elitist. It took me seven tries to find something that worked for my bipolar issues (I refuse to call it a disorder). My fifth physical trainer is the one who finally got me into shape. It took 20 years of therapy before I stumbled onto Internal Family Systems, which has been remarkable and transformative. Keep looking. Ignore the statistics, you only need evidence from one person - YOU.